A child’s eyes are full of dreams. As he grows up expectations, demands, people, surrounding all of it start to take a toll on him. He forgets how it felt when he won his first race because he wanted to. Now he is breathing when he is asked to, walking when others need him to. If he likes to read he is called “Nerd or a book worm”. If he spends time playing out he is called a future failure by his own people. His world starts to shrink. He wants to break free but he can’t. Because he knows no direction. Thus he starts following the Crowd.
His destination is same as everyone else’s .When he fails he cries. Even if he wins he is still crying. All of it doesn’t feel real and right.
He complains every morning he wakes up and at the end of the day he is too tired to say anything. Following this routine he didn’t realize when he got old. Now in his deathbed he is full of regrets.
Regrets about the things he could have done, about the moments he could have lived. About the time he could have enjoyed the nature when he was too busy running the rat race. About the time he could have talked about his feelings, his life.
About the moment when he could have chosen the path less travelled to realize his dreams which are now long dead so does he.
All of us like to win in life. Winning has its own definition so does the winner. In a crowd where people are jostling to get a seat in a bus, the winner is one who gets the seat. But was it worth trying for. There are so many things we do for just the hack of it.
- We want to win to prove other’s wrong.
- We want to win because we can’t stand if a person we don’t like wins.
- We want to win to earn respect, no matter how short-lived that turns out to be.
- We want to win to be famous.
A rabbit and a turtle were in the same race in the story we have known for so long. Why did Rabbit lose? Did he lose because he was too lazy to keeping running? Or he loses because he wanted to give poor turtle a chance. Each one of has our own theory. But I think he lost that race because his Goal was not what he actually wanted for himself. He was there to satisfy his own ego and rise in the eyes of his fellow jungle mates. If he was so sure of his speed he wouldn’t have thought of competing with a turtle in first place.
So have you ever tried to calm your mind of all the commotions and think for a while, what you really want?
Every day we are running several thousand miles which is exhausting, and in vain. We do have a destination and motive but not ours. Take a pause and think is it the race you meant to be in. How likely are your chances of winning? Even if you win will you be happy inside out.
Often from most of us answers comes “No”. We don’t want to be in this race but we don’t know what else to do. We are too afraid to follow our dreams. Too afraid to live our life on our terms. But why?
The word “Failure is too big for us”
Winston S Churchill said “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.
Take example of
Henry Ford– He is known today for innovative assembly line and American made cars. He wasn’t instant success. In fact his early business failed and left him broke five times. Yet today he is famous.
Walt Disney– Today Disney racks in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a rough start. A newspaper editor fired him because “He lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. But he found success eventually.
Two men looked out from prison bars,
one saw the mud, the other saw stars.
- Think for yourself- Critical thinking saves a lot of regrets and stress. Don’t accept everything as you are told. Go out and experience it.
- Don’t care about what others think. Because your choices comes from your own experience. You may want different things in life.
- Never give up control on your life. Take control. Navigate life with a compass, setting your own course.
- Take responsibility for your happiness. Love yourself as the most important person. If you are happy, the world will become a happier place.
- Realize you are allowed to choose your own path. Do only what you believe in.
Destiny is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.
You can sing only what you are. You can paint only what you are. You must be what your experiences, your environment, and your heredity have made you. For better or for worse, you must play your own little instrument in the orchestra of life.
The message is simple-“Live life on your own terms. If you win the victory should be yours. If you lose, failure should belong to you. It’s your experiences, your journey”